“Do you want to be successful?” J, my boyfriend, asked me the other day.
“Yes, sure.” I responded. “Everybody does, right?”
I saw that he was a little hesitant about my assumption, and said that he’s not really into chasing that success-thing, that all that money and fame don’t really resonate with him.
Then I realized we weren’t talking about the same thing.
What do you think of when hearing the word “success”?
At this point of my life, I see success as being surrounded by people that lift your energy, that you love and appreciate, doing the job that lights you up inside out, that makes you get regularly into that magical flow that pulls you out of time and space and throughout that dedication to your craft be able to serve the world and give back, using your unique gifts and talents.
I think it is important to reevaluate once every now and than the definitions we give to certain words. Are those definitions ours or we blindly accepted definitions society imposed upon us? Now, I am not talking just about success. Look out other words that are regularly part of your vocabulary or highly prioritized on your life-goals list. We all want happiness, good relationships, abundance - but what these words mean to you? What “happiness” presents to you? And let me tell you, there is no right and wrong definitions, all are true to the degree that you feel them true to yourself. There would be billion definitions of the same word as each of us is so damn complex and irreplaceable. And once you defined a word for yourself, don’t get attached to your definition. We, humans, like to put labels on things, categorize and put everything in precise order. However, change inevitably arises and sometimes we tend to freak out as we feel losing control (that, btw, never existed other than the illusion we made in our mind). Accept that you are a fluid being, that you change with every breath you take and so do your values, your desires, your goals and definitions.
Define stuff for yourself and accept definitions given by others ONLY if they resonate with you, but remember to let them be free, let them change as you change, let them be the reflection of your values at the certain moment in time accepting the fact that they may change, grow and expand and that there is literally anything wrong with that.