Stuff your ears.
Lock the sight to the screen.
Put the guards up.
That’s it - you are ready to go.
I don’t watch news, I don’t read newspapers, I don’t know what the fuck is going on in the world, but I don’t feel guilty or ashamed because of that... Should I?
There are natural disasters, murders, tragedies and wars on the other end of the world, but there are tragedies, murders and suffering in my neighbourhood, as well - and yours, too. I cannot do much about the first ones mentioned, other then send my blessings and love to that faraway place, but there are concrete things I can do when seeing someone struggle in the street of my city.
There are people walking around distracted by their phones, reading news on some new catastrophe happening in a faraway country they’ve never heard of and yet they miss noticing that old lady struggling to carry heavy bags from the grocery store. They lose their precious energy and attention on something they cannot effect and do much about and there are opportunities to serve, help and alleviate human pain at every step, every day. We just don’t want to see. We don’t want to take the responsibility. We say we do, but we don’t. It is too easy to talk, fake compassion and express our disbelief about all that is going on in the world, but can you really be present to the human being sitting next to you? Can you see them as a soul they are and not just as another object standing in your way while you are running to catch the metro?
Notice, stay present, hold that door, give a compliment or even a hug, put into the words the appreciation you feel for a random stranger that just entered the bar... We can help alleviate pain in so many simple, yet powerful ways, and once we start, it has a ripple effect and it expands beyond what our minds can imagine. That old lady you helped cross the street, goes home full of gratitude and joy and pours that emotion in the act of baking his granddson’s favourite cake, who then feels cared about and loved by his grandma and spreads that good, loving feeling around during his day at school, helping his classmate who is going through tough times at home.... and so on and so on. You got it.
Little decisions and at the first sight unimportant acts of kindness we plant throughout the day are so much more powerful that we may think.
I got a wake-up call on this, as well, and it opened my eyes so much.
I am always talking how I want to help, serve, heal, do something to make other human beings feel loved, heard and appreciated... yet I still don’t have a clear vision how I’m gonna do that.
As always, our bro Universe was trying to contact me by sending clear messages on how I can start to be of service on a daily basis, but I was damn good at ignoring them, fighting and resisting.
So, what was happening? Basically, I was losing and/or breaking one pair of earphones after another and after reaching the number 10 (10 pairs of lost/broken earphones in 3 months) - I gave up. I surrendered. You don’t want me to buy another pair and go around deaf to the world? Ok, I got it.
What I realized was that I was ALWAYS with earphones - walking around, sitting in metro, running on the treadmill, waiting for the class,... Literally, ALWAYS. And the thing is half of that time I wasn’t even being present to the music or podcast that was playing in my ears. I was using it as a distraction from my busy thoughts and as a wall that blocked out people around me, so I can be “alone and at peace” at all times.
I saw then clearly why I had to lose 10 fucking pairs of earphones in 3 months.
I wasn’t present.
I was saying I wanted to serve, but I made myself deaf to the cryings for help all around me.
Now I go around and I see, I hear, I notice - I am not some kind of Mother Theresa, but once you decide to go present about your day, you’ll notice 100 little opportunities to ease and bring lightness and joy into someone’s day.
...if you need to read newspapers for one reason or the other, go fucking read them. I don’t care. But don’t do it outside with your fellow human beings begging for your attention and help.
Lots of love,