When I embarked on this spiritual journey, started reading books and articles on personal development, spirituality, psychology, mindset etc. and expanding my knowledge and awareness on different concepts, patterns and ideas, building my vocabulary to describe and affirm subtleties of the reality I was vaguely familiar with, but couldn’t quite grasp them yet without having the fertile ground where to plant them and leave them flourish and develop within my consciousness; when I started meditating, writing pages and pages in my journal until the dusty surface washed off and the deeper truth could reveal itself to the page; when I started feeling and experiencing things that were beyond my understanding of this world and Universe, expanding and shifting my perception of All-that-is, making me question things and go back to the beginnings, start the journey back to the heart from the overactive mind where I lived for many years - I naturally felt a strong urge to start sharing those realisations and “downloads” with my close ones.
How could I keep for myself those profound experiences and mind openings? How could I live with the knowledge that brought so much relief to my world and not share it with those who I love and want the best for?
If you had a similar experience and you’ve tried to push upon others mind-shifts you have had, if you’ve tried to give them books, send them links, talk for hours ending up feeling unheard, misinterpreted and frustrated at the end of it all - you are certainly not alone. I believe that urge to help others with what have helped us and believing it’ll do the same for them is natural, but it shouldn’t be acted upon if there’s no invitation to do so.
…and yeah, it can be quite tough to resist it.
You may have tried - it may seem so fucking obvious to you what someone has to hear or do to better their life or their mindset and change their reality, but if you put all that energy into trying to depict to them what is clear to you and you end up facing the wall of incomprehension, feeling disappointed and even a bit (or, let’s be real, a lot) annoyed - it’s time to back off.
This one has been a hard lesson to me and even though I had accepted it on some level, it still pisses me off that I cannot intervene and help (or what my mind perceives as “help”), but instead remain silent and calmly repeat to myself: “It is their path and they have to walk it their way. There’s a reason for that and the Higher Intelligence knows better than my limited human mind.” I can love them anyways - disagree with them and even avoid certain topics - but love them at the point there are at, remaining extremely alert to any sense of superiority that Ego may come up with and dissolving it right away by understanding that each being has a curriculum in this particular lifetime and that each one of them is as valuable as the next one - none of them is inferior or superior, none of them is more elevated or more spiritual than the next one - they are just what they are.
Judging the state of consciousness or how awaken or “spiritual” someone is according to our idea of what being “awake” is (which is, again, nothing else than another trap of the Ego trying to make us feel separated and superior, whatever the content is) is judging our very selves in another parallel reality or in another lifetime.
We pass through different roles, genders and life circumstances in different lifetimes and in order for them to be taken to the completion we have to live according to our own Curriculum that came along with the lifetime in question. Sharing the information and knowledge when invited to do so is certainly welcomed and beneficial, but we shouldn’t get attached to the results of that sharing or grow the expectations of how that should change something within the other person. If it does, than it was meant to do that, if it doesn’t, that it was meant to do just that and instead of forcing and pushing harder - simply step back and honour the Universe’s plan for that person, honour the Higher Wisdom that’s guiding us all - and in that sense - we are never really lost. We are just living out our curriculums with more or less ease, dependent on how resistant we are to it or what are the lessons that need to be integrated in this lifetime.
So, next time you feel annoyed with someone “not getting you” or misinterpreting your words, next time you feel compelled to push someone into reading that book “that will change their life” even though they show no interest at all in doing so - take a long deep breath, go within and bless the person, bless the path they are on and bless how different it is from yours while acknowledging that is no better or worse, it simply IS.
And it is beautiful and magical all the same.
I love you.