When I talk to someone about the signs from the Universe, receiving messages from the Spirit or connecting to the Higher Realms asking for the guidance and direction, I am often met with confused looks.
I find that many people want to have some kind of confirmation from the Above, but live stuck in the belief that they have to be some kind of “special person” to achieve that, that they have to be one of the “chosen ones”, meditate X amounts of hours a day or have an elaborate spiritual practice in order to receive guidance from the Universal Intelligence.
None of that is true.
We all have the possibility to receive guidance and we all do receive it daily and in every moment. Universe is talking to you, the only thing you have to do is start listening and let go of the fixed expectations of how those messages should make their way into your awareness.
If you are waiting for some kind of mystical experience, an old man with long beard manifesting in front of your eyes giving you suggestions in deep fatherly voice - you’ll probably just end up disappointed and miss out the whole thing.
The first step to enter into the space of Universal Guidance is to open up your perception and get very present and aware of subtle things that pop up into your reality. Be aware of synconicieties, repeating numbers and random words, images, song lyrics etc. that in one way or another, for some unknown reason, catch your attention. And when that happens, do not just write it off as a “fun coincidence”, but embrace it and give thanks to the Universe for establishing the connection with you through that channel. Every time we decide to lean into the sign from Above and follow it all the way through, even though our logical minds can’t quite make sense of it, we strengthen the connection with the Higher Guidance and make it easier for the future messages to come through.
Acknowledging that the coincidences are just the way our rational brain tries to make sense of the stuff that are difficult to grasp from our physical perspective, but that there is a whole much more to it, is one of the most important steps, in my opinion, of strengthening our faith and connection to the Higher Realms (God/Universe) that hold the bigger picture of All-There-Is.
Furthermore, everytime we act upon that Guidance, surrender to its directions and see the wonderful results that follow up, we widen up our awareness to receive future signs that sometimes come in subtle and unobvious ways that often pass unperceived by the mind that is overly attached to the rational view of things.
It took me some time to develop my faith into trusting the signs that I couldn’t explain or see where they’ll take me long-term, but with regular practice and taking leaps of faith, jumping without the certainty that the net will appear - I became better at it and also started to take notes of each time I went along with the signs and how well it turned out at the end.
Here are some ways I talk to the Universe if I am in need of clarity about something:
ASKING FOR A SIGN IN A SPECIFIC FORM
1) Get clear about the question that you want an answer to - ideally it would be a yes/no question and the sign will mean that the answer is positive, but of course you can do it the other way around as well. Just make sure to set a clear intention.
2) Ask the Universe to send you a sign. It can be an image of a pink dog, a certain word or whatever else pops into your mind, just make it sure that you are very specific about the sign you want to receive to avoid the confusion or falling into mind’s trap that it is just a coincidence when the sign appears, ‘cause you chose something that can be seen and encountered very often.
3) Set the deadline. You don’t want to be waiting forever for your sign. Even though time and space we live accordingly to are just illusional and invention of our own in order to make it easier for us function in this world, Universe will adapt to that and send you a sign when you need it. Therefore, set the deadline of whatever amount of time you want. It can be a day, a week, a month. Be specific.
4) Let it go. Once you made the request, let it go and relax into the calm expectation of your sign or absence of the same if the answer to your question is negative. Lean into trust and don’t overobsess or try to push the circumstances to forcefully make the sign jump into your reality.
5) Stay aware of your surroundings and everything that catches your attention for one reason of another. That doesn’t mean being obsessive and overinvested into searching for the sign at every corner. Trust that it will make its way to your awareness without you having to try too hard.
CONVERSATIONS WITH THE SPIRIT
This is the other form of asking for the guidance from above that I heard about somewhere and, although very doubtful, decided to try out and see whether it’ll work.
And it damn well did.
The practice consists of taking a journal or a notebook and asking the question in written form by using your dominant hand. Question can be anything. From the most trivial stuff as “what am I meant to eat for breakfast for my highest wellbeing?” to “What is my life purpose?” You decide how deep you want to go for the day.
I usually start my mornings with this sets of questions from The Course in Miracles: “What would you have me do? Where would you have me go? What would you have me say and to whom?”
After posing the questions, take the pen into your non-dominant hand, place it on the paper, breathe in and settle in your body and see what comes out. You don’t need to think or invent anything, just remain a calm withness of whatever comes up, releasing the need to try to intervene in any way. What would you do with the answers and advice that come up is upon you, but let the Spirit talk freely.
I know it sounds really woo-woo and bullshitty (I felt the same way about this practice before actually starting it) but it works perfectly and accurately that it creeped me out in the beginning.
If any of you have some other tips, advice and experiences on the topic, I’d be more than glad to hear about it!
Lots of love,
“There’s no reason to cry, nothing to be sad about”;
“Ohhh, such a beautiful girl and crying - what a shame”;
“There are so many worse things happening to other people - you shouldn’t be sad/angry/resentful about it”;
“Don’t cry, everything’s ok”
Any of these sound familiar? If you are a human and reading this post, chances are you heard some of these phrases or variations of the same many times during your childhood and adult life. The society we grew up in fears negative emotion like nothing else and we tend to avoid and escape it ourselves and help our loved ones do the same at any price and as quick as possible.
But, let’s take a look at the following situation.
What really happens when you are passing a sad moment and crying, especially as a child, and an adult figure you love, trust and appreciate comes and tells you that “there’s no reason to cry, nothing to be sad about” when what you feel indeed IS sadness and tears are pouring out of your tiny eyes without you willingly forcing them to do so?
What happens in the internal world of the child who is having an emotional experience that is real and palpable and they feel it in every cell of their body and yet the adult human that they trust and see as a more knowledgeable guide tries to convince them that what they are feeling is not valid?
Imagine the confusion within the child. I shouldn’t be feeling this way, yet I do - therefore there is something wrong with me, something not acceptable. I should feel different. I should force myself to feel different, because they say that what I am feeling is not valid or good.
That’s how we first learn suppression.
Although the intentions of the adult figure in the example above are most probably positive and loving, the act itself brings a message of shame and guilt, invalidates the emotional experience of the child and teaches it to suppress their emotions and not trust their internal guidance system. It pushes the child from their heart space and body to the mind, asking them to rationalize something that is not meant to be rationalized. They may stop crying and calm down, but don’t let that calming down trick you into thinking that you really helped them. You actually made the biggest disservice that will haunt them for long years to follow. You literally asked them to distrust their internal voice, filter the emotional state they’re in through the rational mind and place their trust externally into your words and explanation of why their experience is not valid. You didn’t “change their mood”, although it may easily seem so, you just taught them to suppress and ignore their internal compass.
And that’s how we continue to go through our lives - using the same approach whether the person passing through the difficult emotional experience is ourselves or someone else.
When we feel sad or depressed and someone tries to deny our experience through either listing reasons why what we feel is not valid or through trying to forcefully push us into the better feeling state BEFORE we are ready to move on, before the emotions we are having are fully processed - we start to feel disconnected and alone. Alone in our current experience and invalidated for going through it.
It is a help that is no help at all, as it shows us that what we feel shouldn’t be felt and therefore there’s something wrong or bad with us for feeling that way. People with depressive disorders usually have a loud and pretty toxic inner critic that would not miss this kind of opportunity to wake up even more and start beating up the person for feeling the way they’re feeling what will consequentially make the person feel even worse - it’s not anymore just the heavy, dark feeling of hopelessness and malaise but also an added layer of guilt, feeling of inadequacy and incapability to jump from one emotional state to its opposite when that is exactly what their surroundings expect of them.
If you happen to have a friend or a person you are close to who is passing some kind of rough time, depression or simply a hard day - don’t invalidate what they are feeling. Don’t set as your goal to try to make the person feel better, stop crying or make them smile. Make it your goal to be with the person, to be with them in their feeling state and make sure they understand that is completely fine what they are passing through. That does not have to be expressed verbally - a simple hug and presence is enough.
In desperate desire to help someone in pain, we often worsen everything by constant chatter and going over memories of other people passing through the similar stuff. Even though it is often with the best of intentions - many times it just creates more distance. Be with the suffering one and give them your undivided presence and love. Validate their state by not trying to understand it rationally even though you may not really “get it”. Feelings are not to be “get” or “understood” but FELT. And that’s a huge one everyone still needs to learn.
If it’s just within you that you are struggling to find a loving place from which you can be present to yourself while in pain and passing negative emotional experience, try to bring a complete awareness to those moments. We are programmed to move as quickly as possible through “negative” and uncomfortable feelings, bulldoze through, numb them and run like maniacs to the other side of the river, but that is not really useful and if you stumbled upon this post, the chance is you already learned that through your own experience.
Stay in your pain, stay in your discomfort, feel it and bath yourself in love and light while experiencing it. There’s nothing wrong with you. Nothing you should feel guilty about. Nothing you should try to explain or understand. Surrender to the wave of energy passing through your field, acknowledging it, feeling it, without judging or attaching yourself in other ways.
Most of my life, when passing through hard depressive episodes, I’d make myself suffer the double ‘cause of the belief that what I was feeling wasn’t acceptable, valid or “explainable” by the rational mind. Still, it didn’t change the fact that I was feeling it. Other times, when the judgmental voice inside my head would get too loud to bear, I’d reach out for help but many times to the wrong people who would, instead of easing my way through the pain or simply being with me, add more wood to the fire of self-loath and self-negligence. Not out of evilness or cruelty, but simply because they didn’t know any better.
Society taught us to escape negative emotional experiences in any way we could think of, so that’s what we’re doing. But, guys, you cannot go anywhere before you REALLY acknowledge and experience where you’re at right now. Non-felt feelings come up to haunt you later, they resurface when you least expect them or grow denser through time and suppression and manifest as a physical condition and disease.
Next time you find yourself or someone you love going through rough emotional experience, remember it is just about meeting you/them there and bringing your loving presence.
Nothing to understand or rationalize. Nothing to push away or run through.
As connected as I naturally am to my intuitive side, I spent most of my teenage years completely cut off from my internal guidance. Day after day, I’d be shutting its voice and finding the shelter within the mind, rationally evaluating any doubt and decision I was about to take and running to others for the advice and direction, whether I really needed someone else’s advice on the topic or not.
My only sources of guidance were rational evaluation and other people’s opinion. I kind of forgot how did it feel to “hear the whispers of my inner guide”.
I was left completely confused when my therapist asked me for the first time:
-OK, but what do you FEEL you wanna do about that?”
-What do I FEEL? Well, obviously there are x advantages and y disadvantages, therefore I should...
-No no no, not what you SHOULD do or what they want you to do, but what your heart wants?
My heart?? I had no idea. I lost the access to that part of myself and it took some serious work and tuning in to rediscover the path to that calm, safe, knowing place within me.
The reason why I am writing this post is because innumerous number of times along the journey to reconnecting to the voice of my intuitive side, I stumbled upon the challenge of discerning whether it was really my intuition speaking up or whether it was just the fear trying to prevent me from doing something that may benefit me and bring joy to my heart, but it is at the same time risky, uncomfortable and requires some courage. And, sometimes, it is reaaaally hard to distinguish one from the other, as the fear, in desperate want of our Ego to protect us, knows all the tricks to mask itself and hide behind any role that’s needed in order to get our attention and persuade us to choose it.
Intuition is like a muscle, the more you tap into it and train it - the stronger it gets. However, in order to get to that point and start developing the muscle, we have to do some deep inner work, getting quiet on regular basis and tapping into our inner space so we can learn - or really remember - the language of our heart and soul. When I’d be in doubt which voice is my intuitive voice and which is the fear-based one, I’d say outloud the question that I’d have and put a hand on my heart space, closing the eyes and getting really aware of anything happening in that space. Then I’d say one after the other possible solution to my challenge and stay conscious of how it feels in my chest while I am pronouncing one particular possibility. If the sensation is warm, expanding, calming and evolving - that was my intuition saying “yeesss, that’s the right way”. If I’d feel a sudden drop in energy, getting slightly tense, the sensation of closing in the Fifth Chakra area, almost like fog entering my body - I’d know it was the fear speaking, trying to prevent me and save me from potential hurt and disappointment.
If you are still struggling a lot or just from time to time (I, personally, still do sometimes when it is about stuff I am particularly sensitive about or topic that tends to trigger the old wounds and patterns) to hear the voice of the Internal Guide, don’t be harsh with yourself, give yourself love, acceptance and - patience. It takes time, it takes being quiet, staying superaware, being willing to look inside and... trust. Trust that you can find that place, that your body gives you signals and that there is nothing you can really DO about all of this other than listen... really listen.
I was listening to one of the recent episodes of Andy Frisella’s podcast today and there was one phrase that particularly struck me and resonated in that deep, truthful way:
“First you do, then you learn”.
It seems like a paradox and it goes contrary to everything we have been taught through our uprising and education, but guys - it is so fucking true and you and me both know that. How many years of education we waste to learn, to prepare for something in the future, yet that future comes and we are completely unprepared to face the real world, real life, real responsibilities.
We accumulate knowledge and information without being put in concrete life situations and therefore ignorant of how to actualize that knowledge and apply it, transform it into act and real skill and not just useless, idle piece of information.
They say “jump before you are ready”, “you will never be ready, so start now” and other stuff, but for some reason the very same thing expressed in different words finally really got to me and inspired me to continue trying and being brave - continue doing what I don’t know, facing new approaches, new challenges, don’t afraid to be wrong, to make shitty work. The important thing is to show up - show up before we are ready to do so and gain skills and experience throughout the way, by showing up constantly.
And when we really focus on that, on action, on acting instead of being in forever “prep mode for life”, our fearful inside critic also gets a bit calmer, becomes just humming noise in the background while our dedication and courage take the main seat of our lives.
Love you as always,
If you are anything like me, you find enormous amount of pleasure in planning, organizing and controlling. It may seem like a good quality and it surely is - to a certain degree. But, when/if you become victim of your own rigid rules and structures it can block the natural flow of things and cause some energy stagnation , blockages and lack of excitement on daily basis.
I think that’s what happened to me recently. I know when I am in allowing state, on high vibration, attracting good people, experiences and states into my life. I know it by reoccurring synchronicities and “miracles” that simply pour into my reality when I open my heart and let go of that constant need to control and figure out every single thing.
I don’t say that you shouldn’t plan your days and goals and have your shit “under control” (whatever it really means). What I am saying is that we, as humans, have the ability to see just a tiny fragment of all there is and therefore some of our goals, desires and aspirations may seem impossible.
We drain ourselves by asking “how” and trying to find a logical way to reach our destination when we should only and exclusively focus on “what” and “why” that hides beneath it.
Universe/Source/God is the one who knows how and will arrange the craziest synchronicities, events and connections to bring into our lives what our heart and soul desires and what will be of greatest service on our path.
So, my message to you and a reminder to myself is...
Things are always working out for you.
Let go of the need to control and figure out every single thing and simply send your desires to the Higher Power and stay in the open and receptive state while that that you most want (or need for your maximum expansion and growth) is coming your way.
And if you don’t get what you (think you) want, believe it is for your long-term best and that there is an intelligence far greater than us ruling this Universe.
Stay open, soulfriends.
I’ve been struggling for years with Seasonal Affected Disorder or so-called “winter blues” and as I much as I plan to avoid it every single winter by preparing and organizing all tactics and strategies, I’ve never avoided it completely and each winter (with this one being no exception to the rule), I’ve been falling into long low-energy and fatigued moods, with no motivation and will to do everyday stuff.
I can be disciplined with myself and during all this years battling with mental health problems I developed a few tools for handling my mood swings and keeping them from completely ruining my life, but even after pushing myself to be productive, to meditate, to create, to go for a workout - I would finish my day crying in bed, already resentful for having to go through all of it tomorrow. I am just tired, leave me in bed till spring, please.
Today, however, I think I might have found the best cure for all of it.
And what is it?
Forgiveness and acceptance. I can forgive so many people, but I am so harsh with myself and I believe that is the case with lots of people. I felt like doing nothing this morning, and even though I planned workout and this and that, I just said fuck it and with no guilt returned to bed and read until lunch time when I got out for a walk with my parents.
What is so revolutionary in this? you might be wondering.
Well, for me it is. On some days I might stay in bed and do the same but filled up with guilt and self-loathing, so that instead of getting that so needed rest I would just be more tired at the end of the day. This time I let go off all of my expectations, duties, “shoulds” and just gave in into resting for a morning and...
Nothing happened. No one died. No one was angry with me nor screamed at me.
Life goes on and I am feeling calmer and refreshed by this newly discovered sense of acceptance and allowing myself to go with the flow instead of pushing constantly, running after “shoulds” that I learned along the way and feeling resentful, tired and at the edge of a nervous breakdown most of the time.
Guys, please be compassionate with yourselves. You need it. Forgive yourselves for being imperfect and provide yourselves with love and acceptance at all times, but especially when you fail to reach your high standards and crazy expectations.
Lots of love,
On the soul level we all “choose” our problems, difficulties, struggles and pains.
It is a hard realization and many people are not ready to accept it .
“Why would i choose to have a cancer?”;
“I surely didn’t choose the father that beat me and tortured me all the way throughout my childhood”.
You didn’t decide it on the conscious level by using your mind, but your soul attracted that exact experience in order to facilitate and give you the opportunity for you maximum expansion and growth. As soon as your realize this, accept it and start to act accordingly, you’ll find a new and empowering way to look at your difficulties. Instead of feeling like a victim, like being constantly followed by a dark grey cloud of suffering and pain, you can take a step back and ask “Why did my soul choose this situation/relationship/event? What hidden gem is there that I can learn from, grow, become stronger, wiser, more compassionate and better human being?”
It is not something that happens in a day and instantly, it is a long process and we have to be consistent and dedicated if we want to shift our perception and use our struggles the best possible way. Taking on the role of the victim of our life circumstances is often more comfortable and easier and the pity of others can be soothing. However, don’t you prefer to feel empowered, strong, inspired and motivated? Don’t you want to experience that beautiful sense of relief and freedom that comes with shifting our perceptions and looking things from the different angle, digging beneath the surface?
I encourage you to try out this process. Write down about the struggles you’re going through and ask your Inner Guide why is it so, why are you passing through the certain situation and what there is to learn in order to allow you to grow and blossom from it.
Take care and stay tuned to your inner voice.
The word that I’ve been planning to tattoo on my wrist for awhile already is the word ease.
Definitely not because it is something that I am succeeding at daily, but because it is the state and the feeling I am striving towards.
I think the first time I heard the concept of “living in ease”, “flowing with ease” or simply “giving into ease” was in one of the Abraham Hicks’ talks. This concept resonated so deeply with me, because all I’ve ever known was the contrary. Life is pain, struggle, blood, sweat, tears. No pain no gain. If you want to succeed and be happy you have to suffer certain amount of time.
These are the messages that are programmed into our minds since the very early age, but what Abraham says is that it is upon us to choose HOW we want to reach our goals - with ease or through struggle and resistance. Everything comes down to our belief systems.
If we believe that we have to be sleep deprived and working 20 hours a day for years before reaching our career and financial goals - that is exactly what will happen. On the other side, if we believe everything flows to us easily (attention! that doesn’t mean we don’t have to put in the work and just lay down on the couch) that is exactly what will happen. It is not about working and taking action or sitting on the beach waiting for the things to come to us - it is about, yes, giving our best, putting in the work and effort but doing it from the place of ease and flow, letting go of the resistance and creating in alignment with our Higher Selves.
I’ve been practicing this concept as much as I can, even though I slip more often than not. The little trick I learned just recently is putting myself in the right state before doing the certain thing. Let me explain. We have to do something we REALLY don’t want to do - it can be a creative task, just something that needs to get done, workout, whatever. So, we have three options:
1) procrastinate and don’t do it and end up feeling even more stressed out and guilty;
2) push ourselves into doing it but doing so filled up with resistance and low vibe feelings;
3) changing our emotional/mental state beforehand so that we tackle the task from different vibrational state.
The last one is what I am talking about - it has been a real game-changer for me since I realized it. Maybe you think you don’t have time to do things that will raise your vibration before crushing your to-do list, but trust me - working 1 hour from the place of ease and flow will bring sooo much better results than working 3 hours tensed up and resistant.
If we feel we need to workout, but not feeling like that and dragging ourselves to gym while hating the world and anyone who invented exercise there is a high probability we will fuck up some of our joints, slip in the shower or drop a dumbbell on our feet. Carrying that low-vibe around just to get it done does more harm than good, in my opinion. Yes, you may feel a bit better ‘cause of endorphine release after the workout but nothing compared to if you put yourself in the right mindset beforehand.
Is it watching motivational videos before hitting the gym? Putting on your cute gym gear and instantly feeling ready to kick some ass? I don’t know what is your thing, but you should definitely find it out as it will make your life so much easier.
In my life, the area I personally am very careful when diving into is my creative work. If I go into it stressed out, straight after coming home after a long ass day - I would just make shit, have noise and mess in my head, not do anything nearly good and start to hate myself, doubt my abilities as an artist, doubt my value as a human, want to quit art, want to quit life and so on. You know the drill.
BUT if I put on some healing music, take a shower, make a short meditation to ground myself, clean my mind and reconnect with the Flow - I am able to produce much better, ideas flow more easily to me and my focus is less distracted by that little hateful self-critic all creatives are struggling with.
Sooo...I feel like I wrote so much and don’t know whether I transmitted well my thoughts - but however - be aware of your mental/emotional state before tackling any task! It is important, guys! It is more important than the actual execution of the thing because the quality of execution depends on the vibration you carry with you when diving into the task.
Take care and lots of love,
I believe all of us struggle with decision-making from time to time, being it simple day-to-day life decisions or big stuff that have the power to radically change the direction of our lives. We are afraid to take the leap, to make the decision, however small or big it is, because what if something better comes up and we already chose or what if we are making a wrong decision and would later look back and repent ourselves... We go to our friends, co-workers, family, therapist searching the approval for making the decision or looking for an advice and even though there’s nothing intrinsically wrong with those actions, they are useful only and uniquely in a sense that they can reveal to us the “right decision” that we already know. Because, the things is: we always now. Deep within our inner space, underneath all the racing thoughts and our obsessions with logical explanations for every and each step we take - there’s a knowing that is never wrong. If we go to a friend to help us with making a decision and after hearing their opinion we feel relief - that’s the sign we’re on the right path.
Guys, we all DO know. We just forget how to trust ourselves, sometimes we forget how to hear our inner knowing whispering to us because we are surrounded with so much fucking noise, voices running one on top of the other - which of those are my thoughts? which are theirs? is this my authentic behaviour or something I picked up along the way to help me blend in?
It can get rough, I know. But I want to remind you and above all - I want to remind myself - that all the possible answers already lie within us and the only thing there’s to do is to silence down, tune in, spend some time alone without distractions and make the space for the answers to come up to the surface.
There were many little-big decision during this week I was so certain about but afraid to act upon because of the possible disapproval of others, even though everything was very clear and I knew what I needed in the moment to best serve and soothe myself.
After saying “fuck it” and just doing the things my way, following the gut-feeling, I found myself in front of wonderful and unexpected new revelations and experiences that Universe sent me as a confirmation that I am on the “right way”, that there is a way of ease and flow and it is not hard to find, it is very close to us at all times, we just need to tune into it and have faith and courage to trust it and give in to it.
Hope you learned some valuable soul lessons this week as well <3
Lots of love,
Somewhat before the end of 2017 I found myself with a tiny piece of paper that I saved inside my wallet long time ago, titled “NY’s Resolutions 2017”. Reading through the list I was astonished by the fact that I accomplished or got to experience almost everything I wrote down, as surreal and impossible some of the stuff seemed while I was writing them down one year ago. I traveled, volunteered at yoga and meditation place in southern Portugal, got my bachelor degree, went study abroad, reconnected with my creativity, fell in love like never before and much more... Successful year, you might say. But... was it?
I definitely feel grateful to all the people, circumstances and Universal energy that allowed me to get all of my wishes true. I also feel immensely proud of myself as I know how much work I put into this year to meet some of the goals I set to myself.
However, as much as the reality was suggesting me I should feel really happy and accomplished because almost everything is checked off my NY Resolutions list, there was something wrong, something missing, something we don’t talk about year after year...
Why do we make New Year’s Resolutions Lists in the first place? Ok, it is obvious: we want to accomplish more, grow, learn, create new habits, get rid of old ones that don’t serve us anymore etc...
As with anything else in our lives - we do it because we believe (on conscious or subconscious level) that it will make us feel good, happy, in peace... that just that one goal, one relationship, new house, finished marathon or whatever else you might be longing to achieve - that that one thing would bring us into the emotional state we want to be into. We believe that crossing off items off our resolutions lists will magically transform us into the person we dream of being and make us feel more at ease and in sync with everything around ourselves.
Don’t get me wrong, it might happen in part, every new experience and risk we take changes us, shapes us, allows us to learn new lessons and therefore grow if we decide to embrace and implement the knowledge we gathered along the way...
But from personal experience, together with dopamine hit, surprise and pride I felt as I realized I accomplished almost all crazy goals I set up to myself, there was also a slight sense of emptiness and... disappointment, I’d dare to say.
Like “that is it? That is how it feels to get it all done?”. I guess I was expecting fireworks, unicorns and something of a kind... or I was expecting that if I were to accomplish all those things I would somehow completely change, I would automatically get to that place of ease and tranquilitythat I’ve been dreaming of for so long...
I don’t want to say that resolutions are bad, that setting goals for ourselves is wrong... it is certainly useful if it motivates you and gives you clarity about the areas in which you’d like to experience the most growth throughout the year. My NY Resolutions List for this year is long, big and bold, sitting firmly in my diary and waiting to be turned into reality.
However, other that resolutions I think we should also set intentions for the new year that lays ahead of us. Something that cannot simply be crossed off the list, but should be practiced over and over again, turning into habit, gradually improving the quality of our life and relationships, something that we can fail at on some days, but stand up again and continue with practice. I believe only this kind of reoccurring actions can bring us into the emotional and spiritual space we want to be in - and from that space we can appreciate and celebrate all the other accomplishments and goals.
Take a moment and think about your intentions for this year. Write it down and hold it close to you so you can reread it every time you feel like you are losing direction or falling out of the alignment with your Higher Self.
Here is my list.
Intentions for 2018
-be more present
-be a better listener
-call myself back when I fall into the place of fear and try to see the situation from the place of love
-be compassionate with myself and others
-when falling into judgment, get aware and choose again
-choose love, over and over again
-be light and spontaneous
-stay firm but detached from my opinion and decisions, leaving the space for Source to guide me
-surrender to the Universal intelligence
-give up on struggle and trust the natural flow
-get back into the place of alignment as many times as necessary