When I talk to someone about the signs from the Universe, receiving messages from the Spirit or connecting to the Higher Realms asking for the guidance and direction, I am often met with confused looks.
I find that many people want to have some kind of confirmation from the Above, but live stuck in the belief that they have to be some kind of “special person” to achieve that, that they have to be one of the “chosen ones”, meditate X amounts of hours a day or have an elaborate spiritual practice in order to receive guidance from the Universal Intelligence.
None of that is true.
We all have the possibility to receive guidance and we all do receive it daily and in every moment. Universe is talking to you, the only thing you have to do is start listening and let go of the fixed expectations of how those messages should make their way into your awareness.
If you are waiting for some kind of mystical experience, an old man with long beard manifesting in front of your eyes giving you suggestions in deep fatherly voice - you’ll probably just end up disappointed and miss out the whole thing.
The first step to enter into the space of Universal Guidance is to open up your perception and get very present and aware of subtle things that pop up into your reality. Be aware of synconicieties, repeating numbers and random words, images, song lyrics etc. that in one way or another, for some unknown reason, catch your attention. And when that happens, do not just write it off as a “fun coincidence”, but embrace it and give thanks to the Universe for establishing the connection with you through that channel. Every time we decide to lean into the sign from Above and follow it all the way through, even though our logical minds can’t quite make sense of it, we strengthen the connection with the Higher Guidance and make it easier for the future messages to come through.
Acknowledging that the coincidences are just the way our rational brain tries to make sense of the stuff that are difficult to grasp from our physical perspective, but that there is a whole much more to it, is one of the most important steps, in my opinion, of strengthening our faith and connection to the Higher Realms (God/Universe) that hold the bigger picture of All-There-Is.
Furthermore, everytime we act upon that Guidance, surrender to its directions and see the wonderful results that follow up, we widen up our awareness to receive future signs that sometimes come in subtle and unobvious ways that often pass unperceived by the mind that is overly attached to the rational view of things.
It took me some time to develop my faith into trusting the signs that I couldn’t explain or see where they’ll take me long-term, but with regular practice and taking leaps of faith, jumping without the certainty that the net will appear - I became better at it and also started to take notes of each time I went along with the signs and how well it turned out at the end.
Here are some ways I talk to the Universe if I am in need of clarity about something:
ASKING FOR A SIGN IN A SPECIFIC FORM
1) Get clear about the question that you want an answer to - ideally it would be a yes/no question and the sign will mean that the answer is positive, but of course you can do it the other way around as well. Just make sure to set a clear intention.
2) Ask the Universe to send you a sign. It can be an image of a pink dog, a certain word or whatever else pops into your mind, just make it sure that you are very specific about the sign you want to receive to avoid the confusion or falling into mind’s trap that it is just a coincidence when the sign appears, ‘cause you chose something that can be seen and encountered very often.
3) Set the deadline. You don’t want to be waiting forever for your sign. Even though time and space we live accordingly to are just illusional and invention of our own in order to make it easier for us function in this world, Universe will adapt to that and send you a sign when you need it. Therefore, set the deadline of whatever amount of time you want. It can be a day, a week, a month. Be specific.
4) Let it go. Once you made the request, let it go and relax into the calm expectation of your sign or absence of the same if the answer to your question is negative. Lean into trust and don’t overobsess or try to push the circumstances to forcefully make the sign jump into your reality.
5) Stay aware of your surroundings and everything that catches your attention for one reason of another. That doesn’t mean being obsessive and overinvested into searching for the sign at every corner. Trust that it will make its way to your awareness without you having to try too hard.
CONVERSATIONS WITH THE SPIRIT
This is the other form of asking for the guidance from above that I heard about somewhere and, although very doubtful, decided to try out and see whether it’ll work.
And it damn well did.
The practice consists of taking a journal or a notebook and asking the question in written form by using your dominant hand. Question can be anything. From the most trivial stuff as “what am I meant to eat for breakfast for my highest wellbeing?” to “What is my life purpose?” You decide how deep you want to go for the day.
I usually start my mornings with this sets of questions from The Course in Miracles: “What would you have me do? Where would you have me go? What would you have me say and to whom?”
After posing the questions, take the pen into your non-dominant hand, place it on the paper, breathe in and settle in your body and see what comes out. You don’t need to think or invent anything, just remain a calm withness of whatever comes up, releasing the need to try to intervene in any way. What would you do with the answers and advice that come up is upon you, but let the Spirit talk freely.
I know it sounds really woo-woo and bullshitty (I felt the same way about this practice before actually starting it) but it works perfectly and accurately that it creeped me out in the beginning.
If any of you have some other tips, advice and experiences on the topic, I’d be more than glad to hear about it!
Lots of love,
When I embarked on this spiritual journey, started reading books and articles on personal development, spirituality, psychology, mindset etc. and expanding my knowledge and awareness on different concepts, patterns and ideas, building my vocabulary to describe and affirm subtleties of the reality I was vaguely familiar with, but couldn’t quite grasp them yet without having the fertile ground where to plant them and leave them flourish and develop within my consciousness; when I started meditating, writing pages and pages in my journal until the dusty surface washed off and the deeper truth could reveal itself to the page; when I started feeling and experiencing things that were beyond my understanding of this world and Universe, expanding and shifting my perception of All-that-is, making me question things and go back to the beginnings, start the journey back to the heart from the overactive mind where I lived for many years - I naturally felt a strong urge to start sharing those realisations and “downloads” with my close ones.
How could I keep for myself those profound experiences and mind openings? How could I live with the knowledge that brought so much relief to my world and not share it with those who I love and want the best for?
If you had a similar experience and you’ve tried to push upon others mind-shifts you have had, if you’ve tried to give them books, send them links, talk for hours ending up feeling unheard, misinterpreted and frustrated at the end of it all - you are certainly not alone. I believe that urge to help others with what have helped us and believing it’ll do the same for them is natural, but it shouldn’t be acted upon if there’s no invitation to do so.
…and yeah, it can be quite tough to resist it.
You may have tried - it may seem so fucking obvious to you what someone has to hear or do to better their life or their mindset and change their reality, but if you put all that energy into trying to depict to them what is clear to you and you end up facing the wall of incomprehension, feeling disappointed and even a bit (or, let’s be real, a lot) annoyed - it’s time to back off.
This one has been a hard lesson to me and even though I had accepted it on some level, it still pisses me off that I cannot intervene and help (or what my mind perceives as “help”), but instead remain silent and calmly repeat to myself: “It is their path and they have to walk it their way. There’s a reason for that and the Higher Intelligence knows better than my limited human mind.” I can love them anyways - disagree with them and even avoid certain topics - but love them at the point there are at, remaining extremely alert to any sense of superiority that Ego may come up with and dissolving it right away by understanding that each being has a curriculum in this particular lifetime and that each one of them is as valuable as the next one - none of them is inferior or superior, none of them is more elevated or more spiritual than the next one - they are just what they are.
Judging the state of consciousness or how awaken or “spiritual” someone is according to our idea of what being “awake” is (which is, again, nothing else than another trap of the Ego trying to make us feel separated and superior, whatever the content is) is judging our very selves in another parallel reality or in another lifetime.
We pass through different roles, genders and life circumstances in different lifetimes and in order for them to be taken to the completion we have to live according to our own Curriculum that came along with the lifetime in question. Sharing the information and knowledge when invited to do so is certainly welcomed and beneficial, but we shouldn’t get attached to the results of that sharing or grow the expectations of how that should change something within the other person. If it does, than it was meant to do that, if it doesn’t, that it was meant to do just that and instead of forcing and pushing harder - simply step back and honour the Universe’s plan for that person, honour the Higher Wisdom that’s guiding us all - and in that sense - we are never really lost. We are just living out our curriculums with more or less ease, dependent on how resistant we are to it or what are the lessons that need to be integrated in this lifetime.
So, next time you feel annoyed with someone “not getting you” or misinterpreting your words, next time you feel compelled to push someone into reading that book “that will change their life” even though they show no interest at all in doing so - take a long deep breath, go within and bless the person, bless the path they are on and bless how different it is from yours while acknowledging that is no better or worse, it simply IS.
And it is beautiful and magical all the same.
I love you.
Nothing solid and lasting cannot be built on the shaky foundation.
I witnessed my life falling apart before my very own eyes this summer. I witnessed all of the illusions I nurtured so diligently crashing down and dissipating into thin air. I got scared, discouraged and confused. Suddenly all of the structure I was holding myself onto proved to be false and I found myself floating above the ground, directionless, clueless and uncertain of a single thing.
I also developed resistance to writing this blog. Somewhere along those hot summer days, I lost my initial vision for the blog and the fear of others’s perceptions and opinions grabbed me from behind while I wasn’t looking and even though I fought it and pushed through few posts that were begging to be written (somebody out there badly needed to read them), I finally surrendered and made a conscious decision to not publish any of my writings until I feel calm and grounded again. How could I ever help anyone if I myself feel like a wreck? How can I offer clarity and hope to another if I’m not able to see further than my own fingertips at the time?
Although I deeply trust that “our mess is our message” and that the struggles we encounter on our path are our greatest lessons, often meant to show us the way and asking us to share them with others, there’s something to be said about respecting the time it takes for the lesson/experience to ripen before it can be put out there under the magnifying glass, analysed and dissected in order to be used in service of the collective.
From personal experience I can tell you there’s an immense difference between vulnerability and courage needed to step fully into it so that we can share what we feel insecure and unproud of (usually guided by the desire to serve by our example, connect with others, offer hope and encouragement and allow the illusional barriers between our individual selves to dissolve) and premature sharing that can come under the disguise of those same motivations, but can never really accomplish them as it comes from a hot, steaming place - from a low vibrational point as it is an unloving and punishing act towards oneself and it cannot become anything else.
At times, as well, we unconsciously look for compassion, pity or some kind of “acknowledgment” of our pain from others - but it never results as we secretly hope it would. Nothing and no one external to yourself can offer you that and you’ll just get disappointed with your subconscious expectations crushed in a blink of an eye, probably even prolonging the time of healing and integration.
So, let your wounds dry out before you expose them.
Stay in your grief and feel the storm, but wait until later to describe us its power and colours.
We cannot serve anyone before we are in full service of our Inner Being, before we fully respect and honour ourselves. We cannot teach anything that is not fully embodied within us and if we try to, people will instantly feel the lack of authenticity and run the other way.
When the smoke goes out, the picture will be clearer and in the meantime you’ll gain the necessary distance from the experience so you can share it from the place of vulnerability, BUT without being attached to it as you were at the point just after it happened. You will certainly remain with some cords and feelings connected to the experience, but time and proper tending to the wound will provide you with the possibility to detach from it so you can slip out of the victim role and make the best use of the event through integrating its lessons yourself and sharing it with others for the greatest benefit of all.
Lots of love,