We’ve all done it. We’re all guilty of that, being it on regular, daily basis or just now and then.
Talking with my bf on the phone the other day about how those people that are complaining all the damn time get on my nerves, how I’m sick and tired of their playing victims and not doing anything to move forward... Then I shut up. As I realized I was complaining about others complaining, which doesn’t make much sense.
It is easy to fall into the trap, guys. Complaining and negativity are contagious and there’s surely some comfort being found in the victimhood, playing small and blaming the external circumstances on our lives not being what we want them to be and us feeling shitty ‘bout that.
The important thing to understand is that things are never good or bad. Things just are as they are. We are the ones inventing the labels and putting them on. On the other hand, this Universe loves us more than we could ever grasp and it makes everything happen for a reason and for our greater good. Contrary to what I just said - things, at the very end, are always good. The hardest times bring the best lessons and growth opportunities.
If you’re going through some really rough times at the moment, I don’t mean to be disrespectful or pretend that shutting up, suppressing the pain you’re feeling and putting on a fake smile will help - it definitely won’t and don’t do that. What you can do, instead, is acknowledging the grief, the sadness, whatever it is going on inside of you, knowing that it’ll pass, knowing that every bad situation has its hidden gems that you are not able to see at the moment, but that will reveal themselves to you sooner or later. Have faith and remember how strong you are and how stronger you’ll be once the storm is over.
And to us others... who are bitching just for the sake of bitching, complaining and blaming the external stuff to avoid facing our fears, laziness, unwillingness to take the responsibility... Just stop! Ok? (I am not talking just to you, but this is a reminder for myself as well.)
Whining about stuff with your mates may create a false sense of bonding, that “we are all in same shit, everyone’s against us, poor us, blahblah” thing, but all in all... it just drains you. It uses a shit ton of your energy that can be invested in some nice and productive things that could actually help you move forward with your life.
So, what are some practical tips when you feel that seductive urge to complain and externalize your power and responsibility?
Pinch yourself, take a deep deep breath, grab a piece of paper, notebook, whatever, and write down all nice, beautiful, good stuff that pop into your mind. It can be as basic as “Cereal this morning was so damn yummy” or “I am happy my professor’s sick so we don’t have lesson today”... Literally, whatever you want that fills you up with gratitude and raises your vibe.
There is just one little thing, though. YOU HAVE TO WRITE IT. Not just read this post, think about it for millisecond and... “nah, it doesn’t work”. I am telling you this because I was exactly like that, but when I finally got my lazy ass up and wrote down my gratitude lists few days in a row... Game changer. Everything got brighter and more colorful. Flowers, unicorns, all that shit.
Don’t trust me. Just try for yourself, ok?
Stay well and lots of besitos :**
Bitchezz, I’M BACK!
Back from where? Nowhere, actually. I’ve been here all along, getting on with my life in Zagreb, focusing on getting through the winter days as it requires LOADS of my mental energy as ridiculous as it may sound to you. BUT. Spring is here!
I feel reborn, awake and energized after months of fogginess and lack of motivation, so you may expect new posts by me a little more often ;)
Actually, looking back now that it's over, I am pretty proud how I got through this winter. It wasn’t easy, but I fought and got up million times, keeping up with my self-care routine religiously which consisted of daily guided meditations, evening gratitude list, journaling stuff that happened and my feelings about the same, going to the gym at least 2-3 times a week, eating super healthy and staying hydrated. I know the last one may sound strange, like what the fuck water has to do with your mental well-being, but trust me - it makes a HUGE difference - at least it does for me. Guess I am much like a baby, getting all irritated and evil when lacking sleep, water or food, when I am too cold or too hot. "High-maintenance" they call it? Just exaggerating (mhm, or not?), I can adapt when I need to, but when I am at home I want to be comfortable and satisfy all my basic needs, traveling and adventure-times are again something else and call for some leaps out of our comfort zones, which is great. Also, I think it’s very important to pamper ourselves every now and then, show some appreciation and love to our bodies, minds and spirits the same way we do that to our loved ones, but I’ll get to that more in depth in a separate post.
I have to admit that I am pretty excited about the days that are coming my way, having some amazing trips planned that I am looking forward to and some kinda scary challenges/goals that I set to myself which are awesome as well - because, as I keep learning and relearning over and over again, there are no failures, only outcomes.
P.S. My lovely friend Ivana just started her blog, so check her out! She’s such an inspiring, powerful and strong woman that I really look up to and you can surely learn much from her as well!
Lots of love :**